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REGRETS OF THE DYING - Bronnie Ware For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five: 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it. 2. I wish I didn't work so hard. This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle. 3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships. 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

Great great buck! Congratulations to Steve and thanks for sharing your trophy with us!

Top notch buck and nice mount to boot.

Way to go Jackson! That is one beautiful buck and you will have a great time chasing a bigger one! Much congratulations and welcome to big game hunting. Nice to have you.

I brought up the idea of a "pre-meeting" so that time is not wasted. Amanda has John's number, I had to get with her, to get his number when I had direct questions/concerns to address with him. I know Amanda is open to giving you his number privately as I'm sure John doesn't want to paste his personal contact info on the world wide web. If I gave the impression that I would arrange this, I apologize. I do not know either of your schedules and I am a busy man myself. Last I heard, you two were both open to a pre meet.

I received your PM. Thank you so much for sharing that with me. You are a blessed man.

Now THAT was fun! Love the powerwagon. The oysters fresh from the ocean...yum!

Wow Coach. I'm intrigued and happy! Looking forward to hearing about it.

I will be there. I hope to see the fine gun room at Bass Pro filled to capacity. It would speak volumes if people would actually show up. Otherwise it's the "same old story" and people only talk the talk. It would send a clear message to the ADA and the others looking at this, that when people get pushed, they'll push back.

http://worldnews.msn...onservationists A conservation group demonstrating an anti-poaching method for reporters in South Africa accidentally killed the rhinoceros they were using in the demonstration. The rhino, nicknamed Spencer, went into convulsions and died after he was shot with a tranquilizer dart in front of a crush of TV cameras and photographers who had been invited to document an operation to insert a poison capsule into his horn. The private reserve near the capital, Pretoria, calls in veterinarians to sedate rhinos so their horns can be treated with a dye and an insecticide, and tracking and identification devices can be inserted. A male in his mid to late 20s, fairly old for such an animal, could not be revived after being sedated Thursday, said Rhino Rescue Project spokeswoman Lorinda Hern. "The rhino had an unfortunate reaction to the anesthesia," she said. "Every time you dart a rhino, you take a risk that the rhino might not wake up and unfortunately today was one of those days." Conservation groups insert poison capsules into the horns of rhinos, which release poison into the horn when it is removed from the animal and are meant to render the horn value-less for hunters seeking to sell it on for use in traditional medicine. Conservation groups sometimes remove horns from rhinos to deter poachers, as msnbc.com's Dara Brown reported in the video below. The horns are similar to hair or fingernails, and grow back after several months.

Chris, I never used to think about life & death & our limited time we have in life. That is until I had a close hunting partner and friend pass away. It made me think about things and how I was wasting too much time on things that, in the end, wouldn't matter to me. I began to start investing more time with important people in my life. My Grandpa was getting up there in age and I spent a lot more time with him and shared more great conversations. I also began telling him how much I loved him. With me being from a Mexican "machismo" culture, it was a little hard to do at first, but boy did it make me feel good. I could really tell the effect it had on him too. Towards the end of his life, he would thank me everytime I said it, and I said it everytime I said goodbye. When he passed, I felt like I had really done my part and given him the best of me, while he was still alive, when it counted. It is a great feeling and one that I will carry with me for the rest of my life. I try to be that person to many people. I don't waste time with "ugly" personalities and appreciate the honest and true individuals in my life. Don't think about death and see the negative (morbid), but as venadito said, think about death and ...start livin'!

There is a vid on the net of a guy riding on the back of a rhino. The rhino is captive and in an enclosure and the guys try and sneak up on it. The rhino gets wind and tries to face off but the guy jumps up on its back.

I like to put it as..."creating memories" Whether with family, friends, on trips, etc. When I am dying, I'm sure I won't remember all the stuff I bought or the money I spent/made. Hopefully I would have made some nice memories to reflect on though. Things that make me say, "I've lived a good life."

The anti's have lobbyists, and lawyers, and volunteers, and money... We just need the right ones.

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If the trigger is adjustable, take out any creep and set at desired poundage. If it isn't adjustable and is a bad trigger, install an aftermarket. I would torque all the rifles bolts to spec and check the barrel for clearance if it is supposed to be free floated. Then I would shoot the rifle with different loads. If it still shot bad, then I would bed it.

This is how I feel about the outdoors.

Good job Amanda! Guess I'll have to win the jumping jack trailer this year!

Cool footage! That's a rare happening for sure.

Super sweet set up. Best of luck with the sale.

Dang! Nice trail cam pics and congrats to all involved in the success!

My thoughts too. I know it isn't free, just hoping it's cheap...

Coach! just an all around great post with awesome pictures of a grand time! You guys put the smackdown on the piggies! Congrats to all involved.

Very interesting news. So not all the orgs on the AZSFWC board even knew this was even a consideration as a proposed bill? I should also note that most of the groups or people that responded to my question where very professional and understanding. I think all in all most of our groups are organized by people who really care and are not self serving. This is my impression from the limited contact I had this weekend. Runningbird, I have been informed that this is not entirely true. AZSFW made a presentation to the AZSFWC board. All the representatives of the orgs that sit on the AZSFWC board and were present knew of the idea of this bill.

Hope you are enjoying your day Troy!!